Does Your Inner Voice Help You or Hurt You?

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Would you be willing to display what your inner voice tells you on the largest billboard in Time Square?

We all have this persistent and at times overwhelming voice inside our heads that insists on ruling our lives. It tells you, "I am just not that talented to apply for this job.", or "I am too ugly." Would you be proud to share what it tells you with the world, or would you rather keep these thoughts under the colossal padlock?

Chances are, a majority of us, humans, would never want our inner negative and self-deprecating thoughts advertised, and there is a good reason for that. These thoughts are not our aspirations and will not inspire anyone. These are your deep, dark, and scary stories you are telling yourself, and they are not the reflection of your potential and your bigger vision.

You don't want to be known for being someone who never achieved anything because of always being afraid, right? We have our self-image to uphold.

Guess what?

This inner voice is not going anywhere. It will always be with you. It is not like that annoying, all knowing, so-called "friend", who you can simply choose to remove from your life and never see again, if she criticized you for way too long. The tiny, but always vigilant, voice is here to stay. Yes, as long as you are breathing, it is doing its job. You make a choice to either let it control you or work to your advantage.

So why not use it to your advantage?

Changing the tone of the message you tell yourself is under your control. Quieting down the negative voice, by deliberately paying attention to the moment it starts yapping and changing it to a more positive story, is possible with practice. You won't become successful and masterful overnight, because it requires a lot of work. And even after you master the skill of controlling your inner voice, it will continue rebelling. It will come back and will try to overtake your entire being. It is like cancer, that if not caught early enough, can't be treated because it spreads like a wildfire until it destroys you.

When was the last time you felt stress, pressure, doubts?

What were you worried about?

Let me guess, in most of these moments when you felt stress, pressure, doubts, or anxiety, you might have been thinking about the future or the past.

How do I get out of the funk?

I ask myself, "Can you control the future or the past?"

Naturally, the answer is always, "No! I can only control the Present." I am in control of my reaction to any situation.

I know many of my friends and clients who are stuck in the past. They still dream of the bright future, but not much different is happening to them. Wanting something is not the same as making it happen.

Here is the process that keeps me on track. I am using my inner voice to help me move towards my vision.

1. Begin with the end in mind. Ask yourself, "What am I trying to accomplish?"